Sometimes there are things that are absolutely better left unsaid.
Especially if you don’t have the balls to say it out loud.
This one is for the ladies who have dealt with the creepiest of creeps, just as I have, and still have that wee shred of faith left in men.
The Social Media Stalker
This guy claims he is my friend. I try to be friends with this guy. Every time I am around this guy, he has a way of making me want to crawl out of my skin. I am never able to tell if it is what he is saying that is bothering me or maybe the way he says it or if its the way he looks at me- like he is a lion and I am an antelope.
I really don’t want you to bite my neck, sir.
I’ve been friends with him for a few years and he can be super cool but he can also be super weird. Everyone is weird and stuff but sometimes it escalates to another realm of ‘wtf is going on right now?’
But I try to be nice.
Believe me- I am a huge a-hole and I can definitely hone these abilities when needed. I just know this guy is harmless and is way more bark and would not be able to back up his bite. I think that is why what happened really didn’t bother me at first until I started thinking about it.
This guy decided one night to tell me the strangest crap I had heard in awhile.
“Sometimes…” he started. I immediately knew this wasn’t going to be a family friendly conversation just based off of his tone. It was this ‘I know I’m going to sound like a creep but I am going to act innocent’ tone. (not to be specific of anything)
“Sometimes…when I envision someone…while I’m doing ‘stuff'”
(I can’t recall his exact wording but it went a little something like this)
“I look at your Instagram pictures.”
What. The. Shiz.
Why would you tell me this? Why? I’m already pretty aware of the fact that there are some poses I cannot take pictures in due to a surplus of curvage but now:
NOW I HAVE TO WATCH ANYTHING I POST WITH MYSELF IN IT.
I stared at him. What the hell did he expect me to say? This stirred up a series of me interrogating my guy friends .
Who else was doing this?
Was this normal?
I’ve typically been considered a dude in a female body so this was uncomfortable for me.
But then it got worse.
A few months went by and I had jokingly brought it up when I saw him.
I was uncomfortable and nervous about it and it just came out.
“Sorry I haven’t had any good posts lately,” I laughed.
He stared at me.
He contacted me a few days later about it and it got creepier.
We were messaging back and forth one Saturday morning.
He was checking on me to see if I was doing okay. I had been a bit of a mess as I had just gotten done dealing with a mind game for six months and he, much like my other guy friends, was a bit concerned at how hard I was being on myself.
He sends me a demo. As you may have guessed if you have been continually reading or just happen to know me- you know how excited I get over new music.
The conversation continued like normal until he brought up the comment I had made about Instagram. I knew where it was going.
He decided to get in depth with me this time and… explain things out.
I can’t in detail write specifically what he said next but it did allude to being woken up in the middle of the night with the urge to scale my posts.
Wanna talk about a really loud scream and throwing your phone?
That is exactly what I did. I threw my phone to get the words away from me.
I haven’t said anything back since and I feel like if I even attempted to at this point that I would be looping myself into it intentionally and the conversation would have just gotten deeper and weirder… and scarier.
The first thing I want to say about this is:
People are gonna do what people are gonna do. I can tell you ‘hey, no don’t do that’ but what stops you when no one is looking?
Secondly, when you are nervous, make sure you don’t start talking out of your butt or you may provoke something by accident. I didn’t intentionally whack the hornets nest. I said it out of jest due to the fact that the last time I saw him he told me that. It was (at the time) the weirdest thing anyone had said to me and I was so flabbergasted and taken aback at the time. Looking back, I definitely should have just gone home after that was said to me and then removed him from social media on all accounts.
Thirdly, please do not stalk my Instagram account so that you can get your rocks off and then tell me about it. It is borderline nauseating and weird. Well, no: It’s definitely weird. Referring back to what I said earlier- There are somethings that are honestly just better left unsaid. I’m not sure if he realized how his words not only impacted my awareness of what I throw out for the world to see on the internet but also impacted our friendship. Any time this guy will be around me (and hopefully never again) I will feel beyond uncomfortable even existing in front of him.
I wish I could say that this is the only weird account I have of weird crap being said to me, but I have loads more stories.
If you have really weird stories that are similar, please let me know that I am not alone out here because being a girl is tough.